"You have the right to make use of ritual."
~ Alan Wolfelt's sixth tenet of the Right of Mourners
The funeral or memorial service is an important part of the healing process. It provides a way for people to support you and allows you to honor the life of your loved one. Do not let anyone tell you differently.
- How you decide to honor and celebrate your loved one is your decision and yours only.
Unfortunately, others may not respect your wishes and will share their opinion about which rituals are right and which ones aren't. Just let this go. Your energy needs to be focused on celebrating the life of your loved one in a way that feels right to you.
- You also have the right to continue rituals... the funeral does not have to be the last time you honor your loved one.
You may want to consider starting your own rituals or traditions to honor your loved one and keep a connection with them. A ritual can be anything that you desire. You can hold a prayer service, write messages on balloons and release them to heaven, or do a charity event in your loved one's name. There are so many things you can do to keep the memory of your loved one alive and close to your heart.
We had the funerals. Other rituals are ongoing.
I have decided that I am going to disregard scripture. In fact I am going to disobey it outright. This verse in particular:
Leviticus 19.28:You shall not make any gashes in your flesh for the dead or tattoo any marks upon you: I am the Lord.
I am planning on getting a tattoo to honor Zach.
Right over my heart.
Heart plus infinity.
Lovely and Daughter already have disobeyed the Lord, so I might as well join them.
Chelsea said to do what feels right. So take it up with her.